I have made a decision. From now on I’m going to actually be kind to myself. This may sound ridiculous, but keep in mind that we’re living in an age where the literal bad guys are telling us we’re nothing more than breeding vessels. Yes, the Supreme Court’s Roe v. Wade abolition draft is no longer a draft, and women’s basic human rights have been stripped away from sea to shining sea.
Some commenters have opined that we here at AFRU should take partial blame for not organizing better opposition to the SCOTUS decision. We told you to dance on TikTok as part of a broader campaign to raise awareness for the cause.
Still, it’s important to remember everyone is their own worst critic. We’re the ones who hear our voices 24/7 and have to live in our own bodies. Naturally, we tend to criticize ourselves because it is easy to pick yourself apart when you’re feeling down on yourself.
But it’s not enough. These troubling times require top shelf self-care service. Here are 7 easy self-care tips I’ve been doing lately and that have already given me a marked improvement in my mood and self-confidence. Let’s learn to be kinder to ourselves together.
#1. Do a 2-minute Breathe Bubble at least twice a day
If you think meditation is for hippies, or that it’s some kind of snake oil, or that you need a yoga mat, special training, and lots of time — think again! You only need two minutes.
The most bang for your meditation bucks is something called the Breathe Bubble. Simply make sure you have two minutes of privacy, and follow the breathing instructions of this youtube video:
Don’t you feel relaxed and refreshed? Now that’s self-care. Do the Breathe Bubble meditation at least twice a day, preferably during its most stressful or depressing parts. Did you read a nasty tweet? Pull out the youtube.
Now that you know meditation works, here are some more advanced materials on the topic:
#2. Sleep that extra hour
Because we’re all striving to be the best people we can be, we rarely allow ourselves to be fully rested. We greet the day and hit the ground running, even on the weekends!
But we need to allow our bodies enough rest so we can be at our mental peak and feel physically well.
The easiest way to treat yourself is to allow yourself that extra hour of sleep when you can. I’m not suggesting being late for work in order to do this, but its okay to sleep until 10am every weekend if your body feels like it. We punish our bodies for the sake of success but we forget that sometimes it is better to listen to your body and feel well-rested.
#3. Give yourself at least two days off each week
Do you remember the good old days where you only had to work 5 days a week? Lol, me neither. Millennials live in another universe where normal work hours don’t exist. We burn the candles at both ends, hoping that working late into the night and on weekends will finally get us to the place we want to be in our life.
And while this is all well and fine, you need to give yourself a break. Take one day a week to just literally do nothing but sit on the couch, or go hiking. Whatever it is that you truly enjoy doing, carve out one day a week to do it without excuses.
#4. Try the 8-step Blessed Morning cycle
Ever notice that our morning moods tend to set the tone for the rest of the day? If we feel well-rested and inspired, our day tends to unfold far more positively than if we were to wake up sleep-deprived, rushed and cranky. One way to make a truly effective self-care investment is to start our mornings fully aware of the present moment.
This 8-step Blessed Morning cycle is a list of easy morning activities specially designed to create a mindset of present awareness that will give you the mental and spiritual alertness to truly appreciate the beautiful fleeting moments each day offer us.
#5. Compliment yourself
This is probably one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do, but it also has the biggest pay-off.
By looking in the mirror and vocally saying one thing you like about your appearance, you’re reminding yourself that you’re gorgeous and that you are enough. You can also leave encouraging notes for yourself in your purse, on the lock screen of your phone, etc.
Maybe your hair looks really awesome that day. Maybe your outfit perfectly matches. Whatever the compliment may be, it is important to remind yourself that you’re beautifully you and no one will ever look just the way you do, so embrace it!
#6. Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy, so don’t do it! Every time you find the urge to compare yourself to the hot girl in your office with the perfect hair or the guy in the gym with a ridiculously nice body, fight it. You’re completely and beautifully unique and the more you remind yourself of this the happier you’ll be.
#7. Take yourself out on date-night for one
Screw Tinder and screw going Dutch. Treat Yo’ Self. Once every two weeks take yourself out to that sappy rom-com no one else will see with you.
Go out to dinner. Order a drink. Order desserts.
Hell, order two desserts. You deserve it. Bring a magazine or a book with you if you feel self-conscious about eating in a restaurant alone. Or, order in seamless and do a face mask and watch Netflix.
Date night isn’t just for couples, and the sooner you realize this the happier you’ll be with pampering yourself. Because no boy or girl is worth your money more than yourself.
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